a sweetener-free valentine's day

Happy Valentine’s Day

You are surrounded by LOVE

Love moves through you and around you.


In truth, Love is all there is.

It’s not a sentiment. It can be an emotion, but it’s not an emotion.

So often we think of love as something that happens to us. We talk about falling in and out of love. We talk as if we’re victims of it.

But love is not capricious.

It is an action and a choice.

We choose to step into the energy of love.

We choose to move love through the world, to see through the eyes of love, to do love.

And that choice changes everything.

Love is not something you can bargain for, nor is it something you can attain or work up to—because love is your very structural and essential identity—created in the image of the Trinity. When you are living in conscious connection with this Loving Inner Presence, you are in your True Self. God is forever united to this love within you; it is your soul, the part of you that always says yes to God. God always sees God in you—and “cannot disown God’s own self”
— Richard Rohr, Love is Who You Are
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Since I’m not eating flour or sugar, I thought I’d pull together some sugar-free Valentine links, because there are lots of ways to celebrate this day without dipping into the chocolate.

Whether you’re in a relationship, hoping for a relationship, hanging out with friends, or on your own, it’s never a bad time to surround yourself with the colors and textures and aromas of love, to remind yourself of the necessary foundation of self-love, to allow your heart to be opened to Divine Love.


It’s always a good time to ask ourselves…

Am I giving that which I wish to receive?

Am I loving life fully?

Am I taking care of myself?

How can I bring more love into the world?


It’s always the right time to flow in the river of love that sustains us…

…plus, Valentine’s Day is a dose of light and fun in the middle of the cold and ice.

And what’s not good about that?

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You are made of love.

You were made for love.

Love is why we’re here.

Things you could do today:

…Get out your journal, go for a hike, take a salt bath, take a yoga class, go to a movie, give yourself a facial, get a manicure, make a painting, make Valentines and give them to your neighbors, volunteer at a charity, go shopping and buy yourself something wild, wear a silky kimono, put satin sheets on your bed, meditate, read a great book, wear bright red lipstick, adopt an animal, get in touch with an old friend, burn some incense, go to a crystal shop, write a short story, build a fire, go on a photo walk, get a massage, get a reiki treatment, put on pink pajamas, walk a labyrinth, express your emotions, drink some cinnamon tea…

According to the great wisdom traditions of the West (Christian, Jewish, Islamic), the heart is first and foremost an organ of spiritual perception. Its primary function is to look beyond the obvious, the boundaried surface of things, and see into a deeper reality, emerging from some unknown profundity, which plays lightly upon the surface of this life without being caught there: a world where meaning, insight, and clarity come together in a whole different way.
— Cynthia Bourgeault, The Way of the Heart


"There is no remedy for love but to love more."

—Henry David Thoreau

Let us agree

for now

that we will not say

the breaking

makes us stronger

or that it is better

to have this pain

than to have done

without this love.

Let us promise

we will not

tell ourselves

time will heal

the wound,

when every day

our waking

opens it anew.

Perhaps for now

it can be enough

to simply marvel

at the mystery

of how a heart

so broken

can go on beating,

as if it were made

for precisely this—

as if it knows

the only cure for love

is more of it,

as if it sees

the heart’s sole remedy

for breaking

is to love still,

as if it trusts

that its own

persistent pulse

is the rhythm

of a blessing

we cannot

begin to fathom

but will save us


—Jan Richardson

From The Cure for Sorrow: A Book of Blessings for Times of Grief

With all of my heart, I am wishing you a beautiful day.

I am wishing you love.

I am calling you beloved.

I am seeking to remind you that you are a beloved child of God, right now, as you are, without changing a thing.

You are loved completely and abundantly.

You are light.

Today and everyday, let’s beam that light like a healing balm.